it is my belief that nothing kills love faster than knowing for sure that the other person doesn't reciprocate it.. if love is all that it is made out to be, how can it be so conditional.. yet time and time again.. in all the movies and books.. and probably in many of your lives, you have experienced this..
i just noticed that movies like Dil to pagal hain, Dil se, Alaipayuthey.. the heros keep begging the heroines to say it.. to say the word.. in dil se, it is extreme... she just says yes, and he is willing to die.. from all the frustration that ended with her acceptance... it's funny to me that an emotion that has been sanctified so many many times dies such a quick death in the absence of reciprocation.. even dev das is sad because of his own cock-sureness - that she still loves him... and in parineeta, the guy just quickly changes his mind when he realizes that she might like someone else more than him..
so what I take away from this analysis is that love is just a prerequisite to sex... since sex requires two people to be together, love becomes a conditional emotion that exists only when both of them feel it.. or it short, it takes to create love.. if this post seems inane to you.. then i should tell you that this feels like a revelation to me.. i always held that love surpasses everything.. that it could be one way.. even when you know that the other person has forgotten you.. and has moved on... and probably only remembers you when someone mentions your name.. but now I am not sure anymore.. i think it's selfish feeling sullied by the need to copulate!!
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What would you say about the western way of dating then? My understanding of their ways is sex and love are two separate phenomenon. Love comes from intense attachment/genuinely liking the other person and their company. Sex is a physical thing. Ofcourse sex leads to more emotional attachment. So maybe its the other way? sex leads to love?
ReplyDeleteMy belief is that love exists. It may not be as pure or unselfish as the movies tend to suggest. And sometimes its unrequited and then it goes away. Better that way..
you should jane austen.. it's very interesting.. her view is if you put an eligible boy and girl in the same company, in a short time they would fall in love.. this is so true and it makes it all a big joke!
ReplyDeletehey, thats so cynical! have not read austen but saw aisha! so, doesn't emma realise that love does not blossom just by having two people sitting in the same roof! Its complicated! Its not geography that defines love.There are so many more variables. I think, you are refusing to see the other reasons!
ReplyDeletehi bd.. what to do.. looks like i have got a sad case of cynicism.. maybe you will set me an example to prove otherwise ;)
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